General Tips

What’s it all about?

Although social media can sometimes feel like an echo chamber, our lives are not. We all know lots of people who we might not always see eye-to-eye with on issues about gender, race, sexuality, and disability. They can say and do things that upset us, offend us, or make us uncomfortable.

When we interact with people who we disagree with we have the power to challenge ideas and mindsets – but this can be difficult!

We hear the same refrains repeated time and time again. We can be asked questions we don’t know how to answer. We can be challenged in ways we know are wrong, but in the moment, it can be hard to formulate a response.

We thought it would be useful to collate some useful resources – link videos and infographics – as well as responses and lines of arguments for these sorts of interactions.


So, it’s about starting arguments?

This isn’t about getting in every argument you can, shouting at your grandma, and aggressively disagreeing with co-workers! It is about resourcing ourselves for the conversations that do come up, and feeling confident when we want to bring them up.


Do I have to challenge every problematic thing I hear?

Of course not.

You might be in a rush, you might be tired, you might have already had that exact conversation with that person about that thing they keep saying, you might not feel safe in that situation to speak out, you might be worried about being labelled an Social Justice Warrior, or an Angry Black Woman.

We have all sidestepped awkward conversations with family members, co-workers, and friends.

This isn’t about starting a discussion every time you hear someone say something problematic. We want to help you feel more confident having a discussion if you chose to.


When I do want to have these conversations, how do I start?

The first resources we have for you in this series are all about how to start these sorts of conversations.

Kassia Binkowski’s blog - How to broach feminism with the unconvinced

Jennifer L. Pozner’s blog - How To Talk About Racism, Sexism And Bigotry With Your Friends And Family


What can you do?

1. Start #TalkingGender – use our guides and myth busters to have conversations with family, friends, colleagues, nurseries, and teachers.

2. Like, comment, and our campaign posts on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram to get more people #TalkingGender and let us know what you think!

3. Donate – Help Zero Tolerance continue to lead work in primary prevention of men’s violence against women, through tackling gender inequality.


Have we missed something?

Do you have any other strategies and tips for approaching these conversations?

If you have any useful resources or tips about how to talk to friends and family about gender, race, sexuality, and disability please just let us know – we’d love to include it here!

We are also taking pitches for #TalkingGender blogs - we want to know how you approach and experience these conversations.

Please email with any suggestions for additions or blog ideas.

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